Images we carry affect our choices
The pictures in our imaginations come with the possibility that they can be fulfilled. Without a guiding image, we will question whether we can manage in that area of our lives. Very early in our childhood we were given these dreams which shaped us and directed our behaviour and the course of our lives. Often we are not even aware of what these are. So how do we begin to see what these dreams are doing to us, so we can manage them as a creative process?
We may find that our present dreams are a reaction to our earlier life experience. We may, say, have grown up poor and our dream now may be to become rich. It is very helpful to take the time to write down our formative dreams to see what our mom and dad dreamt for us. Were we generally compliant with these, trying to make them fit us, or were we reactive to what we felt they wanted to put on us? Are we still carrying idealised dreams? Do we say, ‘One day when we have…’, which can steal our lives now. Are we always trying to prove that we are better than others? What may have seemed like a positive dream may actually be putting a lot of negative pressure on us.
What do these dreams in us look like? With every choice we make around our dreams, feelings come up. These emotions are pulling us, hooking us back to past experiences. If, say, we were very successful at school we might want that feeling again and again in what we choose to put our effort into. Similarly, if we’ve had a negative experience, we will try hard to avoid those uncomfortable emotions in future.
We do have a choice of how we want to live. Our earlier dreams were only our start-up programme. We should take responsibility for them in order not to just repeat them. We need to notice our patterns with our life choices. Thus, we will see what is meaningless and what is holding us back, and what messages are stopping us from becoming whole. The enemy wants us to knock us off track and make us content with superficial answers, so we don’t become wholly ourselves, as is God’s dream for us.
We will need to take the risk of dreaming new dreams, and finding out what we really want. The loss of any dream can feel like something dying. We fear that if we let go of that particular one, that there won’t be another dream to take its place. We cannot really become ourselves if we are an extension of someone else’s dreams. We must not let past feelings prevent us from exploring new dreams, for, as we all know, too many people leave this life without having really lived.