The way we spend money says a lot about us
A lot of the ways we see ourselves was taught us by our family. It’s like we’re plants that have been given our shape by a well-intentioned gardener and now, as adults, we need to come into our God-intentioned shape.
If we think back, we can see how our attitude to money was shaped. Do we still see those dynamics in the ways we spend and save now? Do we value ourselves more or less according to what we have? Continue reading The more we dig, the more we find!
The patterns and roles we learnt from our upbringing have shaped each of us. These memories will hold us captive unless we make time to look at them.
These inner dynamics seem so ‘normal’ that we hardly realise they are there. We polish up our outer world to look good because we don’t know what to do with how we really think and feel on the inside. Continue reading Family Patterns
Our subconscious has amazing coherence about who we are. It gives us ongoing tell-tales to encourage us to explore our inner drama further so we can find deeper integration and healing.
We all hold reality in different ways. In our heads we may carry an ideal of how things should be, but this sets us up for disappointment. Though it might give us nice feelings for a while, it is disconnected from our fuller reality. Continue reading Our Body Speaks
Physically representing emotions that we carry from our earliest childhood can be helpful. For example, we could choose an object to illustrate our struggles or draw our early emotional dynamics. Then we are able to see our inner landscape.
By receiving our emotions, by re-feeling the feeling, we better understand what has created our own unique emotional landscape. We often think our feelings come from someone or something ‘out there’, but those situations are simply mirroring back to us what is going on inside.
Continue reading Our Emotional Landscape
Our unresolved issues live within us and affect our ability to relate. If we challenge some of our formative assumptions it’ll change how we respond now. Continue reading Our Brokenness is Our Gift
Our lives didn’t begin when we got married. When we joined together, our picture was already quite well settled. We need to understand who we were and what we brought into the relationship. Continue reading Becoming Aware of Our Life Patterns
“I’ve often heard people say, “I don’t do emotions, I just think,” as if that’s now free or clever, but actually it’s like reducing your ability to know by 90%.” – Sergio Milandri
Our experience of life is fed by many sources of awareness, including those which are mental, emotional and intuitive. When we rely on only one form of knowing our whole awareness suffers.
In this Sans Pareil Session, Sergio Milandri introduces five ways of knowing and points to a need for a broader understanding of how we know things. Continue reading On Emotional Knowing
When we think we know someone we often stop ‘seeing’ them. They become part of our landscape of daily activities and we don’t realise that they are always growing and changing. Continue reading Knowing and Seeing