Category Archives: Difficult Emotions

Feel the Fear and Give it Containment

Often we identify with the feelings we have and make them so part of our identity that we can’t separate from them.  We say, for example, ‘I am angry,’ or ‘I am fearful,’ instead of, ‘Sometimes I experience anger or fear.’  We shape our thoughts, and receive them from others, but we are not our thoughts and feelings.  We need to take responsibility for every feeling.  They should not be our masters, but be our servants.

We often associate with having fear negatively.  We see it as something that we need to control and get rid of.  But all our feelings, including fear, are important messengers.  Continue reading Feel the Fear and Give it Containment

Anxiety From Assumptions

We have each developed patterns of behaviour in order to ensure our feeling of belonging.  Rejection is what we fear the most, but we compromise ourselves a lot in order to avoid this.  If we wait for others to validate and define us, we disempower ourselves and lose our sense of who we are.  No one can do for us what we need to do for ourselves, for if we struggle to love ourselves, how can anyone else?

The emotional landscape we experienced as children profoundly affected us.  Continue reading Anxiety From Assumptions