All posts by Sergio Milandri

Beauty, Our hearts’ yearning

The most important aspect of our being is our relationships. Like a fish in water, we can take them for granted and hardly notice their importance. However, relationships don’t just happen. As we’ve all experienced, without our nurture and work, they can wither and die. It’s up to us to be aware and to take responsibility for those we have in our lives.

Why do we stop engaging with others, with what is so important? We can easily miss out on a precious relationship through being over-stressed, over-busy, or too hurt.

It may help us to look at our relationship with something like beauty, which is the ‘water we all swim in’, and yet something we can also so easily miss.  Continue reading Beauty, Our hearts’ yearning

In connection we find life

Every person is in relation to other human beings. How people treated us taught us how to relate. We tend to take relationships for granted and to presume that they will always be there until we get hurt. In our busy lifestyles we can forget that in order for relationships to thrive they need to be nurtured. 

As with the food we eat, we can get by on very basic nutrition. We’re not meant to simply survive on junk food. We all know what a specially-prepared meal does for us. It’s a delight for our senses, giving us joy and feeding us at more levels than simply physically.

Similarly, in order to be nourished by relationships, we need ongoing, intentional investment in them. Continue reading In connection we find life

Friday’s Dating & Relating topic is ‘Who am I trying to please?’ 

This Friday evening we’ll be gathering for our next Dating & Relating evening. This is a special time to open our broaden our view. There will be times to share, listen, and have fun as a group.

This month’s topic is ‘Who am I trying to please?’ Our dating, and our lives, can be so formed around impressing our peers that we lose touch with our own preferences. We may need to prove our worth – to a sibling, to our parents, to ourselves, and even to God in making right decisions.

Our invitation is for you to look at what’s behind your drive to impress. We hope you’ll be encouraged by this time together.

Ciao!
The relating team

Time: 7:00 – 9:00 pm   Date: 28 July 2017  
Suggested giving: R60 or what you feel okay with
Place: Sans Pareil, 1 Welbevind Way, Hout Bay
(Diagonally opposite the World of Birds)

“I pray that they will be one…”

At our deepest place of union we come to rest. Not needing to prove something or to explain ourselves, we can just be. Our journey to this point of connection with another does take risk, but it is here that we give our greatest gift – that of presence. 

The space between us and others is never an empty one and if we are aware, we’ll increasingly become skilled at reading another’s presence. We’ll know when we are with someone who, say, has a heavy heart.
Continue reading “I pray that they will be one…”

26 June – Session on Intimacy with Ourselves and Others

We’re deepening our understanding of intimacy. How we are with ourselves affects how we relate to others.

Join us at the barn this Monday night for an interesting session on ourselves and our relationships. It involves asking questions, reflecting on your experiences and sharing what you feel ready to. Continue reading 26 June – Session on Intimacy with Ourselves and Others

19 June – Intimacy with Ourselves and Others

We’re deepening our understanding of intimacy. How we are with ourselves affects how we relate to others.

Join us at the barn tonight for an interesting session on connecting with ourselves, with God and with others. Sessions typically involve asking questions, reflecting on your experiences and sharing what you feel ready to. Continue reading 19 June – Intimacy with Ourselves and Others

Our Deepest Longing

We are creatures that are made to give life. At every stage of our relating to others we are making choices which will either be creative and life-giving or destructive. The investment we make to create a positive, loving space is essential to our union with others. 

Intimacy starts with us, for we can only be as connected with another as we are able to value and trust ourselves. We will not be able to respect or love others if we have a low estimate of our own worth. Life batters and bruises all of us, but we are meant to persist with bringing light and healing to the world. Intimacy is a hard-won reality, but it is very worthwhile. Continue reading Our Deepest Longing